Dear Karinna,

I’m not that good being on top. I get bored. Can you please help me? That is my boyfriend’s favorite position.

– K.

Dear K.,

First of all it takes courage to ask for help in your intimate life so I want to congratulate you for taking that first step.

To transform your boredom on top into excitement and fun– and possibly even make it one of your favorite positions– I want to discuss what may be happening to you.

Ideally an “on top position” will stimulate a woman’s G-spot very well. If you are not doing this it may be because you are not feeling enough stimulation by your boyfriend’s penis which causes your steam to fizzle instead of growing hotter. In that case try one of these adjustments:

1. Lie flat on top with your abdomen touching his abdomen and make micro-pelvic movements in an “up and down” motion on his penis. This should arouse your G-spot beautifully. (Remember, the G-spot is located about two inches into the vagina and needs to be stimulated by pressure on the front wall of the vagina.)

2. Also try a variation of a top position such as this one: Sit and face each other. Your legs should be in a bent position over his, which are outstretched. Have your arms behind you with your hands on the bed for balance. You can either control the next movement or you can move together. I suggest that you start with controlling the movement by lifting your buttocks up and moving in a forward and backwards motion. Looking into each others eyes during this movement can create a powerful, intimate experience and can also be incredibly stimulating to your G-spot– and very arousing for him too!

You can also watch my new DVD, Sacred Love-Making for even more advice and tips. (That’s why I made it— to help people like you improve their love lives!)