Dear Karinna,

I haven’t seen my boyfriend due to some problems. I will be seeing him in the next week and I really want to make the night extremely special, romantic, and intimate. But due to money problems I need some cheap ways and good tips to help make this happen. We’ve been together for over a year… and I just want to have a night with him that he will remember forever because it was so romantic and it was a time where we could both just think about of how much we love each other.

So any tips please? Rose petals, lit candles, etc? Thank you!

– A.

Dear A.,

During these financially challenging and shifting times I think there is an opportunity to focus in on our relationships with renewed creativity and curiosity. What we tend to do when feeling wealthy is focus on all the things we think are important to make a date special– all the external accoutrements such as where we can go and what more we can spend to have a great romantic experience. But when we do this we often lose site of the very thing that makes a date memorable, which is the //closeness// with someone we care about and that feeling of appreciation, passion, tenderness, and heat that no external trip, dining, shopping, or partying experience can provide.

It would be fun to do something completely different than what you might have done historically, such as having an experience that is driven by internal feelings and inspiration rather than a classic image of what a romantic date should look and be like. For instance, let’s say that your inner voice just wants to play and laugh on a date and spend the night together and maybe into the next day get as close and frisky as possible. Then why not create from your internal inspiration a whimsical bedroom set in your own bedroom or living room utilizing items that you currently have? This will immediately take the pressure off of spending money and put the focus where it needs to be– on the playfulness and closeness that wants to come tumbling out of you.

For instance, you might create an “artistic circus tent” atmosphere (the likes of “Cirque de Soleil”). You could use an outside umbrella stand, a floor lamp, or any other on-hand apparatus to mastermind the “top” of your tent. If you have a ceiling fan or light fixture utilize that as your top. Gather 8 flat sheets (of different colors if possible) to make the “walls” of your tent. Tie the corner ends of two flat sheets together to make each long wall panel. (You should have 4 walls.) Make the “walls” of your tent by attaching the top of the first sheet to the top of your “circus top” (stand, lamp, fan, or light fixture) and then secure the bottom loose ends on the floor using books (or some other type of weight). **Note:** **Remember not to turn on the light or fan as it could quickly make holes in your sheets!** If you are doing this in your bedroom the tent can go right over your bed. Then, once you have fashioned your “tent” the circus world is your oyster…

Dress your set before the date begins. Go pick up a bag of fresh cut grass from your own yard or from your neighbors gardener and spread it all over the floor or bed to give your tent a “grassy” scent (instead of the traditional circus hay). This will give you the opportunity to tumble around and play with each other in sexy ways in the grass… Utilize small lamps and standing flashlights instead of candles– candles would be too dangerous in this kind of setting– to create a magical ambiance and to “spotlight” different events. Create a low table with a short bench and big pillows to play games of sexy poker and feed each other whimsical treats in playful ways such as rolling whole, multi-colored berries down each other’s bodies and into your mouths. You can also create another cozy area where you can just lounge along pillows exploring each other’s bodies, hearts, and minds for hours. If you have a Pilates exercise ball place that in a corner and see what fore-play inspiration it could provide… Try new sexual positions and explore sacred sex practices in your “circus oasis” that you may have always wanted to try and now are feeling the inspiration for. This is the time, give them a whirl!

This atmosphere will lend itself to a myriad of treats and games for unique intimate acts throughout the evening drawing you closer and closer into sweet and playful love with one another. Whether it is this specific setting or another you dream up just watch how your inner feelings and inspiration can create a perfect space at home to have an incredibly memorable, romantic night and one that incites lasting, intimate fulfillment without costing you a dime.

For more romantic ideas check out the Sacred Love-Making DVD.

Wishing You Sacred Love,
Karinna Kittles-Karsten